I hope you enjoy part 2 of the Q&A.
C: I know that this wasn’t the case with you, but what advice would you give to someone experiencing abuse in a relationship?
J: It’s really hard because many young women want to stay if they love that person, but then again if they are experiencing any kind of abuse then obviously it’s not love. It’s hard because some people have children in the relationship but you just need to know your worth at the end of the day and what you deserve and don’t deserve.
C: What advice would you give to someone who’s about to enter into a relationship?
J: If you are getting into a relationship don’t forget to love yourself. Don’t make the other person your world. Make sure that your life does not revolve around that person but Jesus.
C: You spoke about the importance of prayer, is there anything else that helped you through the break up?
J: Reading books, stories about other young women who went through similar situations as me.
C: Can you tell us one of the books that you read and what you would recommend for someone going through a break up?
J: The Single Woman by Mandy Hale. This book really helped me realise my worth again, but I feel like I need more time to get that worth back. The book made me feel really important, it’s a good book.
C: Anything else?
J: The devotion that you gave me, it encouraged me a lot. I think it’s also good to read any motivational books that will help. The word of God is also important because you can always find a verse or a story that relates to your situation.
C: That is so true. What importance did this relationship or break up serve in your life and in your relationship with God?
J: It changed the way I think about love. Before I always thought that love could conquer everything as long as you stay together but after the break up I realised that it doesn’t always happen. I’m more wiser and my values have changed. The break up has definitely pulled me closer to God. God is the only one who can make you feel better and for you to be able to understand things. No one in this world can make you feel the way God does. It’s like I know I can cope but God is the only one who can help me.
C: I totally agree with everything you have said, it’s amazing that God understands the full puzzle even when we don’t understand even one piece of the puzzle. what would you tell someone who has gone through heartbreak and is embarking on another relationship?
J: Give yourself time to heal and love yourself. Know yourself and love love yourself, don’t expect the other person to complete you. Get to know you, how can you give your best as a person if you have personal issues. So know who you are.
C: It’s almost valentines day, what recommendations would you give to single young women regarding this day?
J: That they can treat themselves. Spend time with your friends and celebrate. Valentines day is about love, so you can celebrate love between your family and friends… it’s not just about couples. There are so many things you can do, do something that will make you feel better.
A big thank you to my amazing friend for pouring her heart out and answering these questions. This girl has been through so much in the past couple of months, in spite of this she has remained strong and positive. It has been really inspiring to witness her strength.
I hope that you have an amazing week, I have another post planned for valentines day, fears worries and some advice on relationships… so please stay tuned and keep an eye out for the post.
Thank you so much for reading,
-Claris 🙂 Xx