So what are your goals for 2016? is there something in particular that you want to change, improve or achieve?. Since we are already in mid January I would like to think that you already have your new year’s resolutions.
There’s a particular word that pops in my head every time I reminisce on 2015. The word really caught my eye every time I saw it on social media.
The word I’m referring to is goals… and before you start imagining a famous footballer scoring a goal I want to stop you right there. I’m not referring to goals in football I’m referring to different kind of goals, social media #goals.
If you type in the word #goals in the Instagram tag search you will get over 14 million photos tagged with the word #goals.
So what does the word #goals mean anyway?… it’s literally as it says on the tin. It’s something that someone want’s to be or their potential goal. The word is usually used on it’s own or used with other words like relationship goals, hair goals, makeup goals, body goals, closet goals, boyfriend goals, house goals… and so on.
Here is an example of how it can be used below.
“Oh my gosh her hair is like totally perfect #hairgoals”.
“Her body is #goals”
I totally understand that the word goals can be used in a positive way, for example if someone wants to improve their fitness or gain some muscle and they see something that inspires them to do that, then they can use #goals. However some people use goals in a way that they wish they could be that someone that they label as #goals, or wish they could have whatever they have labelled as being their #goals.
Aspiring to have things that are #goals creates a shallow mindset especially through social media where we don’t even know some of the people we are aspiring to be our #goals, nor do we even know or get to see how much work goes on behind certain pictures on social media, well unless we are God, and we certainly aren’t.
Maybe someone spent hours upon hours in order to get that perfect selfie that you claim to be your #selfiegoals, or maybe the person almost broke their back just to make sure they capture the perfect angle . I know I’m pushing it a bit but I hope you get my point here.
You don’t even know weather a certain girl starves herself or she is maybe battling an eating disorder, in all her pictures she appears happy but in reality it’s the total opposite, you then come along and hash tag one of her pictures and claim it to be your #bodygoals.
Maybe you aspire to be that couple that seems so perfect on social media (your #relationshipgoals) but you don’t really know what goes on behind closed doors. You don’t know weather they fight every single minute or maybe they are on the brick of splitting . I’m not trying to paint a negative picture of relationships I’m simply saying stop making other people your goals.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with beautiful pictures. However, People try to paint an oh so perfect, glamorous image on social media but really in reality it’s never the same. We don’t know how much work goes on behind the scenes, behind that spotless, flawless selfie. People don’t usually put hundred percent of their life on social media and we only get to see a potion of it minus all the challenges and problems. Instead of hash tagging everything we see in life, in particular on social media, rather let’s focus more on Christ. On who He want’s us to become.
Make it your goal for 2016 to stop making other people your #goals. Stop wishing you could have what other people have. You do YOU. You don’t need someone else’s “perfect ” body, someone else’s face, someone else’s relationship, someone else’s hair, someone else’s lips, someone’s else’s STUFF.
You are beautifully and wonderfully made and God has a great purpose for your life. God supplies our every need. He knows the deepest desires of our hearts, For you to wish you had something someone else does, is a waste of all that God has specially picked out for YOU. It takes time. It takes patience. it takes commitment, but in order to have an amazing life, the first thing you need to do is to practice appreciating what you have, and learning to be content with it. “Comparison is the thief of joy.” You are one of a kind and nobody and nothing can change that.
Thank you for reading.